wow that was fast . . . .

Michelle

Hey Steph,
Your friend is out of her mind for what she said to you.  She should be de-friended from your life immediately!  People who can get pregnant should experience life in our shoes for a while.  Maybe they would understand.  I have recently started to delete people who are insensitive and negative out of my life and it does feel good.  I can't have anyone around me that will be negative.  I don't find your request to not be around young children an odd or exhuberent (sorry, spelling) request.  You need to do what is comfortable for you right now.

Lauren

First I thought I was the only crazy one up at 7 AM on a Sunday.

Steph-I agree with Michelle. At least while you are going through treatment you should minimize contact with this friend. Its bad enough that she said those things to you but to put it in writing and hit send! Once you put it in writing you can never take it back. I understand people have their own lives and own issues and don't need to be tip toeing around me and my fertility issues all the time. But then guess what I can be selfish to and not answer your emails, texts or calls. You have to do what makes you feel happy at this point. And from your email below it sounds like this was one of the worst things said to you in a really long time.

Wendy

Steph drop her like a hot potato! I stopped talking to the naysayers. It was hard in the beggining & thinking now it still makes me a bit sad. But it was helpful bc I didn't need negativity in my life.
And neither do you. Case in point most if all of your other friends hear you & have left their kids somewhere else to hang w you, it's not you. (and if all your friends were insensitive, u would just need a whole new batch)
I'm going to be harsh bc I'm trying to be the voice of reason. If u continue to try to reason w her, you aren't helping. You need to walk away. Best case, she misses you, hopefully reaches out to one of your understanding mutuals & they talk some sense into her.
And important, do not tell her (unless you already did) I can't be your friend. Just stop interacting. She probably won't get the hint, so you will have to ignore her a long time.
Once u have a kid, if u want her back, tell her u miss her & I bet she takes you back ( if she ever stopped trying, bc she sounds clueless).
Remember you are always #1. not just now bc u are fertility challenged, but always. So if someone pisses you off, don't respond for a while. In our immediate culture, we are always responding, when we should be sitting on it & letting go.

THAT WAS JUST A FEW WE'LL SEE IF I GET MORE <3
I tend to agree with all this. I actually dont think Ive been as avoiding as some ladies are who wont even go to baby showers or christenings or to meet the new bundle when their born. Ive done all of that and all the while undergoing infertility treatments so she can kiss my ass. I had a failed IUI cycle and went straight from getting my results to see Delia who was born the same day. I cooked all day the day before my retrieval for Jeanette for Alex's christening and then the day after my retrieval went to his christening to hold him while he was baptized after undergoeing 21 injections thru my uterus and scar tissue and ovaries all to have the cycle fail. I went to my besties babyshower 4 days after my second transfer and after finding out I was not only going to be at a baby shower but my husbands ex gf had just recently found out she was pregnant. Also to have the cycle fail.
ALL OF THESE BABIES I WENT, SUPPORTED and HELD the day they were born.
SO FUCK YOU IVE BEEN DOING A DAMN GOOD JOB TO THE BEST OF MY ABLILITIES !
<3 stephanie loves nick <3